The decision of whether you should be a stay at home mom or not is very important and in fact, one of the biggest decisions in the life of a mom. A lot of women out there put their career and goals on hold so that they can take care of their kids and family and be stay at home moms.
I remember a friend of mine left her career and a full-time job to be a stay at home mom and she was terrified. Many people say, staying at home is hardest and you need to find ways to survive. There are horrible pieces of advice out there for moms who decide to stay at home and it makes them even more afraid.
Whether the decision to stay at home is a good one or not?
Whether I am going to be a good mom while staying at home or not?
Whether I am going to miss my career or not?
So many doubts, so many guilt boxes!
But I would say if you are choosing to be a stay at home mom, learn how to thrive, not just survive. Everyone knows how to survive and surviving will not make you happy. Thriving will make you whole and you will feel you have a purpose. When you have a positive mindset and energy to deal with what life is throwing in your face, you thrive, you learn, you grow, you achieve, you find yourself all over again!
- Postpartum recovery tips for moms with a toddler
- 10 Time saving hacks for busy moms
- 13 Things I’ve learned after becoming a mommy
- The Ultimate Hospital bag checklist printable
- How to Handle Sleep Deprivation as a New Mom
- 9 Ways to Overcome Mom Guilt
Here are 10 ways to thrive as a stay at home mom and how to slay it!
1. Be a present stay at home mom because this time will not last
I have two boys and both are going to school now. I miss the time when they were tiny babies and I wish I could re-live that time again. Remember that, when you are a new mommy and your kids are little, your time flies. Many moms miss that time too. Being present at that time is all you should do. Be with your little one, set boundaries, put limits on your chores and tasks. Just be there for those moments because you are not going to get these moments again.
2. You cannot control everything when you are a stay at home mom
People say, stay at home moms can control everything as they stay home all day. They have everything under their sleeve but that is not true. They struggle just like other moms struggle hard. Stay at home moms are needed to go with the flow and fulfill each and every need of their babies. Baby is hungry, stop everything, and feed him. Baby is crying, stop everything, and calm him. Even if you are taking a bath, you have to be there for your baby.
So just accept it that you don’t have all the control in your hands and don’t expect too much from yourself.
3. Keep a morning routine with a positive mindset
Mornings are blessings. I never realized that before but now, when I have a morning routine, I can vouch for it. Being a new stay at home mom, it’s hard to set a routine in the morning but trust me, if you try, you will establish that stay at home mom routine, and even your baby will get used to it. Try to get up even 30 minutes before your baby wakes up. Use that time for yourself. Make a mug of coffee or practice some yoga.
Do anything that you want to, just keep this morning routine and you will see the results. A clearer mind, a happy mood, a positive mindset, and better health!
- How to organize your house before bringing new baby
- How to remove urine stains from almost everything!
- How to remove crayon from walls easily?
- Tips on How to Wean Baby off Bottle at night?
- 15 Easy and healthy oatmeal recipes for babies that they will love
- How To Soothe A Teething Baby At Night?
4. Accept that you are living your purpose
After becoming a mommy, your baby should be your first priority. I know this is hard, especially if you had a career but believe me, you can pursue your career later too but this time will never come back. So just live your purpose. You are a stay at home mom now and your purpose if to nourish your baby, take care of him and yourself too.
Once you realize this is your purpose, you make peace with it.
5. Understand that you are choosing power by being a stay at home mom
Remember, you made a choice! You chose to be a stay at home mom. This gives you power and control. Life is not easy when you are staying home, changing diapers all day, feeding your baby 24/7 but this is what you chose to do. So the power is in your hand’s mama and this will help you thrive as a stay at home mom.
You will be facing tough times, sleepless nights, crying hours, vomits, checkups, pains, and whatnot, but again, this was your choice! You are strong enough to deal with this. It’s all about perspective and feeling the control. Own your decision like a boss mom.
6. Automate and delegate and seek help
This is a common misconception that when a woman is a stay at home mom, she has to do all the chores. Just because she is staying home, she has to do the laundry, the cleaning, cooking, dusting, taking care of kids, and everything else. This is the wrong mindset.
If you are choosing to stay at home, you don’t have to do everything. You can ask others to help you. You can automate tasks like shopping, buying groceries, paying bills, etc. You can hire help or even ask your spouse for help.
7. Make a stay at home mom weekly routine
By making a weekly schedule, everyone in your home will know what to expect. You can assign tasks to other family members and get their help. See, it’s all about how you manage everything. Pick days for shopping, groceries, cooking, cleaning, and appointments. Don’t do everything in one day. Assign days to different tasks.
Having a mom schedule would mean you know what you have to do. Humans work well with routines so you will feel empowered and in control and will follow the routine. I suggest all stay at home moms should make a schedule. This is so important!
8. Stay organized
Staying organized as a stay at home mom is not easy. There should be a rule in your home that everything has a place. If somebody picks something, they have to put it back. Magazines and books have to go back to their respective shelves. Dirty clothes have to be in the laundry bucket, no more hanging in the washroom. Dirty dishes have to be in the dishwasher. Clean clothes have to be folded and put away in their drawers.
Ask your spouse to help you even if the tasks are small. Like making your bed in the morning after getting up. Sterilizing the baby’s bottles can be assigned to your spouse too.
9. Schedule everything according to your baby’s schedule
I know a lot of you may not agree here but believe me, this is what all stay at home moms should do. Like I said earlier, these moments are not going to come back again. Live that time, kiss your baby more, enjoy these tiny hands and feet. Set a schedule that matches your baby’s schedule.
Many stay at home moms work when their kid is sleeping and some work when their baby is up. In the end, it all comes down to preferences. Choose yours wisely!
10. Find your stay at home moms tribe
This is last but one of the most important things to do if you want to thrive being a stay at home mom. When you are home, the loneliness hits you hard. You need a tribe that understands how you feel. They say it takes a village to raise your kids. They are right!
The isolation of staying at home is terrible and to fight it, you have to have a mommy tribe. Nowadays you can join a lot of mommy groups where you can share your concerns and talk to like-minded moms. Online or in person, many mommy groups provide support and you should definitely join one.
So these were the amazing 10 ways to thrive as a stay at home mom. With a positive attitude, a little bit of hard work, and patience, you can thrive and bloom!
Here is our mommy’s tribe where thousands of moms share whatever they want to and nobody judges them. Join my Facebook group ?
If you want to be in my email list and get motivational emails monthly with a roundup of blog’s happenings, and exclusive content, subscribe here. Don’t worry, we hate spam so we won’t spam you.
Saima Nadeem
Leave a Reply