I believe that with time, things need changes and if we don’t do that, the spark goes away. Doesn’t matter if there are relationships or a piece of furniture or clothes you wear or your job or anything you have.
You need to find ways to spice up your marriage if you really want it to be a happy marriage.
I am NOT comparing your marriage with a chair you own. I am just trying to tell you that everything needs a little change when times change. Remember the time you got married? You were head over heels in love with your partner and he was too. But then kids happened, problems and differences came and somewhere that spark seems like going away. Do you agree?
Even if you have the world’s best spouse, spicing up the marriage and love won’t hurt you. Marriage means happiness, you are living your life with somebody so keeping things good is one of the best things you could do. This will not only benefit you but good for your kids too and every relationship that is connected to you and your family.
Best marriages mean support, love, hard work, and a little fire. So let me ask you do you have that same fire right now that you had when you met your spouse? I am gonna share some awesome and practical ideas with you that will make you both fall over in love with each other again and will spice up your marriage.
Have a look at these 10 ways to spice up your marriage that can be a life saver?
1.SEND LOVE TEXTS TO SPICE UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
I know life is busy and finding time to text each other just to say I LOVE YOU is not your priority but let me tell you this should be your PRIORITY! Let me tell you why? The reason is, we get busy with life so much that we forget to express love. Love is there, no doubt, but we just don’t express it anymore.
Reasons may be like we don’t have time, we don’t think we need that anymore, we are grownups, we have kids, we know we love each other, we don’t need the feel to express love, texting is childish and a lot more. But these are just excuses. Don’t do that, and send a text with I LOVE YOU to your spouse and let them know you are missing them.
2.FORGET ABOUT THE KIDS FOR A DAY
I know, forgetting about kids is almost an impossible option but don’t worry, I got you covered. I am a mother and I cannot even think of leaving my kids anywhere. But sometimes I do that, and that’s completely normal. This won’t make you a bad mommy or a bad daddy trust me.
If you have a baby sitter, hire her. If you have a family, your in-laws, your close friend, ask them to look after your kids for a day or even for a few hours and enjoy your time with your spouse. You deserve it. A happy marriage will benefit your kids the most and trust me they will thank you later ?
3.DRESS-UP LIKE YOUR SPOUSE LIKES IT
I know many of you would say, this isn’t necessary. But trust me, dressing up plays a big role. Imagine going back home after a tough 9 to 5 job and finding your spouse in a smelly shirt and unwashed face. I know motherhood is hard, I find it hard some days but this is not impossible.
I am not asking you to do it every day. Just do it some days when you feel like doing it. Like on a Thursday night, when the next day is already a weekend. You can just change your dress, wear your favorite perfume and a Lipstick, hardly 10 minutes of your day. Wouldn’t you do it for the sake of your marriage? Do it! It goes for husbands and wives both.
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4.COMPLIMENT YOUR SPOUSE MORE
If you like something your spouse does, SAY IT.
If you like something your spouse is wearing, SAY IT.
If you like the food your wife cooks, SAY IT.
If you like the way your wife cares for your kids, SAY IT.
If you like your husband taking care of you and finances, SAY IT.
JUST SAY IT. Expressing love and complimenting is always a good idea to spice up your marriage. I know what my husband likes to hear so I tell him often ? trust me this works wonders.
5.DON’T UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF TOUCH
Many of you would be thinking this is not we should be doing but why not? You can hold hands, give a small goodbye or a goodnight kiss and anything you feel like doing it. This is not a sin trust me. Even in front of your kids, you can hold your husband’s hand. Don’t panic when he touches you, if he likes to touch you, that’s a good sign that he loves you and wants you. Don’t you want that?
6.THINK BEYOND TO-DO-LISTS
We all get so busy after marriage and kids that we just keep working on to-do-lists and schedules. Pick up kids from school, drop off kids, get grocery done, get the ironing done, laundry is done, meal prep is done, dinner is done, and a never-ending list to go every day. Nobody has time to think about ways to spice up your marriage.
But life is much more than just to-do-lists and schedules. It’s okay to break the lists once in a while. It’s okay to go for dinner when you are outside for groceries. These small things matter a lot to spice up your marriage. Trust me, if you will start doing this, your spouse will do it too. Try ?
7.MAKE LITTLE GESTURES OF LOVE
Slipping a little I LOVE YOU note in your husband’s wallet or his lunch box is a great idea to spice up your marriage. Just like this, if you are a husband, you can write a love you note and leave it on the counter of your kitchen or stick it to the mirror. These small gestures mean a lot trust me. Your spouse will love it.
8.GIVE MORE SURPRISES
Everyone loves getting surprises. It is one of the best ways to spice up your marriage. You don’t have to go over the board to plan a surprise. It can be a little thing like, DON’T COOK THE DINNER TONIGHT and get a pizza while going home.
Get a piece of pastry or a cake while going home. Your spouse will love it. Make an extra dessert at home if you think you have some extra time. Things like this always work if you want to spice up your marriage.
9.GIVE IMPORTANCE TO INTIMATE MOMENTS
If you ask a couple who has been together for 10 years of more, they will tell you intimacy maybe the last thing on their minds while having kids and life problems together. That is right, I agree. But never underestimate the importance of being intimate with your spouse. Your spouse is given to you by God so that you can love each other and enjoy this intimacy together.
I don’t wanna get started on the happiness hormones that our bodies release during intimate moments because that is an entirely different topic. But believe me, by loving your spouse more, by being intimate, you are not only favoring yourself and your partner but also your marriage. So, create intimate moments just like you create your to-do-lists if you really want to spark up your marriage.
10.FOCUS ON GOOD THINGS MORE
Everyone has flaws and nobody is perfect but focusing the bad things that your spouse does will only hurt your marriage. Instead of highlighting the flaws, why don’t we focus and appreciate the good things that our partners do? Try to do that and feel the difference. ?
Marriage is a wonderful relation but sometimes unexpected problems come and we feel like there is no way out. Comparing our spouses with others is another thing we do and end up getting stressed up. Never do that! I hope you like the tips I have shared above to spicing up your marriage?
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Lots of love,
Saima Nadeem
A much needed post. ☺