Do you remember the feeling when you actually fell in love?
And now remember the feeling when you met your best friend and the friendship just clicked. It was a perfect moment, your interests, your choices, your vibes just matched with the other person, who you call your best friend. I believe that friendship is like falling in love. Just like Batman and the Robin, lovers and friends have a lot in common. But we seem to forget that friendship is based on a give and take rule.
Let me ask you one thing, do you have a friend who was so close to you before but not anymore. Why is that so? One reason would be no more give and take. That would be either give and give or take and take. This kind of friendship is not even worth your time.
Life is too short to fake friendships and love. So instead of wasting it on fake friends, spend it on people and relationships that are worth your time and attention. I am sure everyone among you have been through a rough friendship phase in his life, at least for once. This is heart breaking, but this is how life is!
So today, here I am, telling you that you can spot a fake friend and save your time and energy by stepping back from that unhealthy relationship. There are so many fake friends we all have and we don’t even realize. You may have a fake friend standing right next to you and you don’t even know about that.
Real friends make our lives easy, fake friends make our life hard! Do you want an easy life or a hard life? Choice is yours!
1. Real friends always help you achieve your goals
So here I don’t mean to say goals like robbing a million dollars, well that’s a pretty big goal. Lol. But I mean goals like everyday stuff we do. Going for gym, giving you motivation to do something, or it could be anything small like giving up smoking. Good friends help you achieve goals that are important for you. They will not burden you, stop you or create hurdles. You can easily spot a fake friend by noticing if your friend is encouraging you in achieving something or not. If you are lazy in joining a gym, your real friend will motivate you and find you more options whenever they find something good so that you start going gym.
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2. Fake friends make fun of you when you are not around
If you have a friend and all time he is talking shit about you when you are not around, you definitely need to get rid of him. Making fun within limits is okay but I believe if your friend is making fun of you on purpose and that’s hurting you especially when you are not present, then he is definitely not one of your real friends.
3. Real friends agree to disagree
We all are full of faults and our opinions differ but that never means you stop talking to somebody just because you had an argument. If your friend stops talking to you always when you disagree with them on small things, you should analyze your friendship with them. There is nobody in this world who will think 100% like you. Disagreement is in every relationship but how you manage to take it is the real deal.
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4.Fake friends bring your spirit down
Have you ever noticed that when you tell something exciting to your friends, some feel super excited and some just make you feel like this is nothing special? If yes, then let me tell you, these people are not your best friends. People who insult you, belittle you, and don’t get excited on your excitement are not your real friends for sure.
5.Fake friends always want you to change
Going out with a friend and they want you to change your dress because they don’t like it, sounds familiar? Well this is a sign of a fake friend. Your real friends will love you for who you are and would never ask you to change. Fake friends will always ask you to change this, change that and will always ask things that you don’t like.
6.Fake friends always think about themselves
Oh you got a job, you told your best friend and they replied like, “oh I just got promoted and starts talking about themselves” How would you feel about it? Good? Bad? I know that feels horrible. So what is the purpose of that kind of friendship when they are making you feel miserable. They cannot celebrate your happiness and your success because they are always full of themselves. Beware of such fake friends.
7. Fake friends always blame you
Lost something, that’s your fault! Getting late? You are the reason. Unhappy? You are the reason. Fake friends will always blame you even for their smallest mistake to biggest blunders. So this is a major red flag. Planning a meetup but couldn’t decide a place and time, whose fault? Its yours! That’s what fake friends do. They never take the responsibility, instead they blame you.
8.Real friends don’t see you as a competition
This is one of the easiest ways to spot a fake friend. Your real friends never think of you as their competition. They encourage you, support you, help you, show you new ways. But fake friends create hurdles, discourage you, belittle you and tell you that they are better than you.
Fake friends are everywhere, you just need to stop wasting your time on them. Because you know why?
Life is too short to fake cheese and fake smiles.
Many times, people have helped me out of nowhere when I was not even expecting and now I consider them my real friends. Many times my real friends, infact those friends that I thought are real ones betrayed me, considered me as a competition, spread rumors about me and I realized its not about who is with you since a long time. It is all about if somebody is there for you when you need them the most.
Whether it’s a friendship or a relationship, the other person should be there for you. Because that’s why we make relationships, right? Good people are always good, without any conditions. You will see them doing good with everybody, doesn’t matter their friends or strangers. So what do you need to do now? Analyze your friendships and spot those fake friends.
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Lots of love