Alhamdulillah for having another Ramadan 🙂
Every year, I set new goals for Ramadan and sometimes I fulfill them, sometimes I don’t. Being a mother of two preschoolers and living away from family means more chores, more work, and more responsibilities. I also want to make more time for ibadat, for zikr so that I can make most of this blessed month.
But from grocery to cooking, and from cleaning the house to taking care of kids, working alone shouldn’t be an option. We, women need our husbands to understand that these challenges are for both of us.
During fasting, when you are already low on energy and hungry, women need helping hands. If you have house help, that’s great. But if you haven’t, like me, and not even a family member to help share the burden, husbands are the only help we all have.
But sadly, most of the men in our homes don’t help their women. So, i am here to share that they should and if they don’t, then how can you ask them to help you especially during Ramadan.
Aisha radi allahu anhu, the wife of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu aleihi wassalam was asked, “What did the Prophet peace upon him use to do in his house?”
She replied, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family and when it was the time for prayer he would go for it.” (Bukhari)
So that means, Mohammad SAW used to help in his home so why not our husbands. Here are a few ways to encourage your husbands to help you during Ramadan.
Plan and discuss
Before Ramadan, make sure you arrange a small family meeting including your kids and husband and discuss how you want them to help you. Don’t expect anything if you have not said anything because men are like this. They need to be directed and told what women want from them. If you have not discussed this yet, you can do that still now. Tell your husband that you will appreciate little help in taking care of kids or the kitchen. It works well for me, I hope it goes well for you too.
Make sure you tell your husband properly what kind of help you need. Is it grocery shopping? Or cutting the fruits? Or keeping kids busy? Or taking out the trash?
Don’t be harsh
Our husbands work hard to earn for our families so burdening them beyond their limits is definitely wrong. If your husband has long office hours or gets really tired, you can simply ask him to watch kids while you prepare the iftaar or suhoor. If your husband comes early and you think he can help, then you can ask for anything. Just watch your tone, be polite and I am sure your husband would be there to help you.
Appreciate and acknowledge
We all want appreciation and praise but when it comes to our husbands, we forget to appreciate their efforts. Even if it’s a small thing, say thank you. Show gratitude not just with your gestures, but with your words too. Words play a huge role so don’t underestimate that. If your husband is even doing a single thing to help you, appreciate him just like you want appreciation.
I know everyone has a different relationship with their husbands but these are some practical ways that may help you. I hope you find the results you wanted 🙂
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Lots of love,
A SUPERTIRED MOM