Motherhood is hard!
Every other day, I get texts like, “ how to be a happy mom”
I write about parenting and motherhood and about inspiring mothers to enjoy their motherhood. This is a very common thing women tell me.
But the point is, knowing so many moms feel this way is heart breaking. I am here not discussing moms who neglect their kids, are terrible and selfish. I am talking about moms who are GOOD. Who love their kids, and they just overthink.
But isn’t it something we all do?
Because world creates a million doubts in minds of moms and they wonder what is the RIGHT way to love their kids.
Right after getting pregnant, women think about their babies and everyone out there give advice on how to parent, how to give birth, how to breastfeed and a lot more.
- How to organize your house before bringing new baby
- How to remove urine stains from almost everything!
- How to remove crayon from walls easily?
- Tips on How to Wean Baby off Bottle at night?
- 15 Easy and healthy oatmeal recipes for babies that they will love
- How To Soothe A Teething Baby At Night?
And this pile of advice from many other moms confuse the mom to be!
Be a strict mom!
Be a happy mom!
Be a kind mom!
Don’t pick kids or they will get attached too much!
Don’t let them co-sleep!
Don’t do this ..don’t do that!
So what to do?
How to be a happy mom in the middle of chaos?
I always tell moms whenever they ask me something that do whatever you feel like. Go with your instincts.. Follow your heart!
Here at A Supertiredmom Blog, I want to help you love yourself more!
I want to tell you that you are enough and you are doing your best.
We all are together in this and we should do what WE WANT instead of thinking what OTHERS WANT!
Motherhood is already hard, don’t make it harder for yourself. Here are my secrets to be a Happy Mom. Read till the end, apply one at a time and make it a habit. You will be surprised to see the changes.
Remember, it has to start with you. So keep reading ?
Keep your schedule simple to be a happy mom
I have 2 kids and they are school going. I have to deal with their homework, their activities, outings, my home, my work, my husband, kitchen, laundry, and a never-ending list of chores. My rule is to simplify. I don’t over-do anything. I don’t feel insufficient when I see other moms doing a lot more stuff.
Just keep it simple. If you cannot do laundry every day, don’t do it, simple! If you cannot vacuum every day, do it weekly or every 3 days. Who is forcing you to struggle with this? simplify! As much as you can.
Relax and Don’t rush
This is one of the biggest pieces of advice I have ever received from my mother and I pass it on happily. Once you decide you will not rush for anything, you will feel a lot better. Stop saying this:
Hurry up, wear your shoes.
Hurry up, finish your breakfast!
Be quick, we are getting late!
What’s the big deal ?
Just relax, take a deep breath and that’s gonna be fine.
Give yourself time
We ignore the need to give ourselves time when we are the ones who need it the most. It’s so important for your well being. Doesn’t matter if you have a newborn or preschoolers or older kids. Having a little time to yourself has to be in your list if you want to be a happy mom.I tell this to everyone who asks me how to be a happy mom.
Trust me, even a warm bath, a manicure, reading book in your corner with your favorite mug of coffee, watching your favorite Netflix season, or even going out for a walk is so important. The sense of doing something just for yourself is enough to make you happy. Try it! And tell me what do you do ?
Hug your kids more
Hugs have a scientific benefit. They make you happy, relaxed and fulfilled. When you hug, your body releases oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin and these hormones make you feel good.
Hugging and kissing your kids, your spouse, your family, your friends is important to make you a happy mom. Believe me it works. Even if I am busy, I am drowning in work, I always ask my kids to hug me and give me a kiss.
Find more positivity and less negativity
Other people are enough to tell you your negative points so why you do it. Haha. This is not funny at all, I am seriously saying. You have to be positive about your parenting choices, your actions. As we tell our kids to look at the brighter side, why don’t we do that too.
I keep a journal in my kitchen where I write all happy things that happen to me everyday. Even if my little one kisses me on his own without asking, I write that too ? and it makes me a happy mom. Here is my FREE ebook available in the FREEBIES about HOW TO BE A YES MOM if you want to learn how to change your perspective and be happier, say yes to happiness and fun. Download it for FREE.
Follow a routine
For me, routines work wonders. My kids know this is their routine, they stay within the routine and that saves time and so much hassle. So keep a routine of bedtime, meals, outing, etc. Even if you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, routines are good. Be flexible of course! But try to follow the routine, it makes things easier.
So these are my not so secret-secrets to be a happy mom.
If you like this post, plz share. Lastly, do not forget to join my Amazing mommy tribe if you like to access all the awesome freebies that I share on the blog. Be a happy tribe member by subscribing here. ?
See you again ?
Saima Nadeem
Leave a Reply