Boys…boys….boys….boys….!
Are you ready for some boy mom truths?
My favorite little human beings who are little and super cute and so full of energy and love and that smile that makes me go all awwwww, yes these are my sons ?I never thought I would be writing this but being a boy’s mom, I couldn’t stop myself!
Being a mother of two boys, I have my fair share of boy mom truths in these last years.
I love my boys!
Why do I love being a boy’s mom?
Oh don’t ask me this because there are a million things only boy moms say and feel.
I love them more than anything else in this entire world. I am mom of boys and I wear this badge proudly and fiercely.
I often get asked about tips on how to raise a boy right. Being a mum to a baby boy, I can say that raising a son to be a good man is not easy. There are so many social norms connected to boys moms that are not right.
But what it means to be a boy mom? It means you have a huge responsibility falling on your shoulders.
I am raising boys who will be men of future, husbands, fathers, and I know the responsibility is so big but I enjoy every moment of it. All moms with boys would feel same about that responsibility I am sure.
But with this big responsibility, comes many many things that I never thought I would be doing. Lol.
Being a boys mom, you would understand that. You will find a lot in this post.
About how to raise a boy to be a gentleman!
About tips on how to raise a boy right!
About how to raise a son as a father!
About why do sons love their mothers so much!
This is my being a boys mom survival guide ?
Learn how to survive being a boy’s mom!
Being a boys mom means deal with odors and smells
Well yes, doesn’t matter how many times I spray my boys with perfume or deo, they are going to smell bad. Real bad! This is not going to improve I am sure.
The farts and burps and playing in the sunlight that means excessive sweating, oh my God! Please don’t expect that cute flowery smell from your boys if you are a boy mom. This is one of the biggest tips on how to raise a boy right. Consider this a normal thing. Trust me.
Boys like arts and cute stuff just like girls
Mothers who only have sons are often told that they don’t need art and craft stuff as boys don’t like doing painting and coloring and glitter.
So wrong!
Even my little one, who is a boy, loves arts and crafts stuff. I buy paints, colors, papers, beads and everything related to arts. Before I gave birth to boys, I used to think only girls like that stuff just like all moms of boys think. But oh Boy, that was a wrong perception. My boys love to paint and that is the reason why my friends who have girls feel so good being at our home ? lol
Boys will throw every thing all the time
I’m a boy mom and I will tell you that boys throw everything, literally everything.
Being a boys mom, if you are worried that your boys are always climbing, jumping, hopping, throwing things, calm down mama. This is a normal thing. Boys will climb on everything they find. Sofas, chairs, tables, couches, railings, windows, you just name it.
They need to do it to release that energy that they keep inside. I don’t stop my boys from throwing things as long as they are not hurting anyone or not breaking anything. So don’t worry, this is fine.
Moms with boys have to deal with hard fights and pushes
Being a boys mom, I can tell you that you have to be ready for hard fights and punches.
I agree that nobody wants their kid to fight and get hurt. But believe me, being a mom of two boys, I now realize that these fights are just inevitable. I cannot stop them and boys are gonna fight over silly things and then get hurt. This is fine. Trust me this is okay because all boys do that.
Raising boys mean too many loud noises in home
Silence and boys?
IMPOSSIBLE!
With boys, it’s never going to be a silent home. Only before their birth, lol. Or when they are asleep or not at home. So embrace this truth that boys are always loud and they don’t know how to keep their volume low. If you have a boy who keeps his silence, consider yourself a lucky mama. ?
Consider your living room as a playground
So when my boys transformed from babies to toddlers, I used to get surprised and shocked and sometimes angry that within a minute they ruin the living room by playing football or cricket or badminton. Now it’s all normal when I see my other friends having boys. You cannot just stop it always except when you are expecting some guests.
Being a boys mom, I have accepted the fact that our washroom will be wet always
If you are a boy mom, please lower your standards of a clean and tidy and dry bathroom. Your bathroom is gonna get wet when you have boys. Not just with pee, with water too.
Sex talk with your boys is a nightmare
Yes, let me tell you the questions being a boys mom that they ask and the number of things they think. Sex talk is a nightmare with boys. They want an answer to their every WHY!
I sometimes leave it to my husband to deal with the boys. Being a girl, I will confess that some questions are nasty but I have no other choice so I answer them or hand them over to my husband. They will even ask you why your body is different from their papa. Thanks to husband for managing this so well.
Being a boy means, get ready for emergency trips
I have taken my boys to emergency many times. I am not telling you because I am proud of that, I am telling because this is normal and moms of boys would relate to that.
The reasons for rushing towards ER were bleeding, falling down, choking and all of these times, I was present at the moment, but still it happened. So trust me this is not always the boys mom’s fault.
My son was just running when he fell down and got stiches under his nose. Once he choked on an orange. Once my both kids were playing and they bumped into each other so hard that my son started bleeding from his teeth.
So this is what I have faced being a boys mom and I am warning you that you may face that too. Just never blame yourself for anything that happens to your kids.
Raising boys is not easy, it’s just like raising girls
When I gave birth to my son, almost everyone I knew told me, boys are easy to manage as compared to girls so don’t worry. But later on I realized that was the biggest lie that everyone told me. Who says that boys are easy? This is not true and if you are a boys mom, you would relate to that.
Boys mom wipe tears too
So everyone always tells me boys are tough, boys are not gentle and bla bla bla. Being a mother of 2 boys, I often get asked, how to raise strong sons?
This is again not true.
Among all the rules to teach your son, this is important to teach him that he can cry when he wants!
Boys have emotions just like girls and they cry and get hurt. We just expect our boys to be strong. Remember what moms tell their boys when they cry,
OH DON’T CRY BECAUSE BOYS DON’T CRY!
Why do they think like that? That is so wrong.
If you want to know how to raise a boy to be a gentleman, don’t tell them to ignore their feelings.
Why we don’t let our boys be emotional and cry out their grief? I always let my boys cry and never tell them that they cannot cry just because they are boys
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Being a boys mom means you are going to spend a lot of time cooking
I make a heavy breakfast for my boys and even prepare a heavy lunch for them. But right after lunch, they ask for snacks.
Then right after snacks, they need another snack. My boys are now preschoolers and my grocery budget is going high and even last week my husband was asking me what do you even buy and I told him he can manage grocery and kitchen for a month and tell me later.
So if you are a boys mom, be ready for unlimited cooking, snacking and munching.
Being a boys mom means you have to spend a lot on clothes
I never buy my kids white clothes. Do you know why?
I hate the stains and I cannot avoid stains. A new shirt will be ruined after a park meetup and the jeans will be torn.
All moms of boys do the same, lol. I have started buying clothes in bulk trust me. Their trousers, their shoes, and shirts, everything just won’t last long.
Moms of boys think of missing them too
I know, I married a boy who was a son of another mom, my mother in law. I don’t expect my boys to stay with me always but the thought just gives me tears.
I feel sad sometimes that they are gonna love another woman who will be their wife and then I won’t be the only one woman in their lives. It hurts, but then I think about making them men full of respect so that my daughter in laws thank me ?
I am raising a son to be a good man, a good father, a good husband, and a good human.
I love my boys and their sight makes me happy.
Are you a boy mom?
Or you know somebody who is a boy mom? Do share this blog post with them ?
If you have any being a boy mom story to share with me, comment below and let me know ? I would love to hear some awesome stories about how to survive being a boys mom.
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Saima Nadeem
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