Girl’s moms Please teach your daughters to be kind to their Mother in laws

I have two boys and both are just preschoolers. Somedays when mama bakes cupcakes for them and takes them to the park, they love me more and tell me they want to marry me when they are gonna grow up. This is the cutest thing in the whole world guys. And every time when my kids say that, I just hug them tightly and kiss them even harder. But I always tell them, even now when they are just preschoolers that someday they will find a girl and she will make them happy and they have to keep her happy too. I know they don’t understand this right now, but I am sure when they will grow up, they will remember that.

I know one day, my little boys will not be so little anymore and they will get married. I wish they remember that their mama told them about a girl. But thinking about that time makes me nervous sometimes. The reason is not that I worry that my boys will leave me or will not care for me. The reason why I get worried sometimes is that I fear being a bad mother in law. I never want to be a toxic mother in law. 

And equally I fear the relationship I will have with my daughter in law. Will she feel jealous of me as a mother in law who spends time with her husband, who is my son?  

Will she hate me like most of the girls of this generation feel towards their mother in laws? 

Will she encourage my relationship with my grandkids or not? 

But I am hoping for the best because I know I will not be a mother in law who will push her daughter in law aside. But I also hope that my daughter in law understands the fact that I am the mother of her husband. I have given birth to this baby who is now an adult and I would never want him to be a reason of conflict between me and my daughter in law.  

So I want to request all mothers of girls out there to please teach their daughters that all mother in laws are not toxic. If you have a bad mother in law, please don’t let your daughter get influenced by the hate you have for your mother in law.  

Please girls mothers, teach your daughters that their mother in law is the woman who has kissed their husbands when they were little. Who has held him throughout long nights and potty trained him and changed his diapers. Please tell your daughters that I have loved my son with my heart and I will always worry for him. When your girl will ever fight with my son, I will worry! Because that’s what mothers do.  

I fear the time when my daughter in law will say bad things about me just because nobody taught her to be kind to her mother in law. I don’t want that to happen. Mother in laws are not enemies. Let’s say all mother in laws are not enemies. So please, all mothers of daughters out there, remind your girls that we love our sons just like you love your daughters. Please raise your daughter to accept her mother in law and don’t doubt her love for her sons.

I request to all mothers who have daughters to let their mother in laws love their kids and husband. I promise my future daughter in laws that I am gonna raise sons who will know how to love and respect and value the relationship they will have with their wives. I promise that I will teach my sons to change diapers of their babies and how to wash dishes. I will make sure my sons will take care of their wives when they need them the most.  

So let’s promise each other, me, being a boys mom and everyone who is a girls mom that we will raise our kids in a way that they will value their in-laws.  

Do you agree?

Lots of love, 

A Future Mother In Law in the making 

A Super Tired Mom