I often get asked, what are the things I’ve learned after becoming a mommy?
I wish I could write down ten thousand words about this. Motherhood comes with a lot of joys, wrapped in a load of challenges.
New mothers learn about so many new feelings, which they didn’t even know ever existed in the World. Initially, they are overwhelmed, then they learn how to cope with them and eventually get used to them.
Things I’ve learned after becoming a mommy have, indeed, been mind-boggling. A lot of them threw me off the hook and showed me a new version of the life.
You won’t believe that the stuff that I used to brush away, considering unimportant has now become crucial for me. Embracing motherhood has also taught me that certain things are not as important as we consider them to be.
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1. Motherhood is a full-time job
Once a mother, always a mother.
No matter I go to my workplace, hang out with your friends, or enjoying a movie night, I always worry about the well-being of my kids.
It is undoubtedly a never-ending job, and you will not consider yourself anything other than being a mom. If you ask me what is a mother love! I would say it is being connected with your kids at all times!
2. Be done with the comparison
A new mom struggles a lot when she starts comparing her life with others.
If you see someone’s super tidy house over Instagram, there is no need to pity yourself for your own messy home. If someone has gone on a vacation and is having fun, do not curse your boring life.
Comparing your life with others will affect your peace of mind.
Also, who knows if your friends are really portraying their real-life over the internet or not?
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3. Now I can literally deal with everything
The joy of being a mother gets affected by the pressure of dealing with numerous issues. At times, I find it exhilarating to cope with the stress.
In such a situation, I remind myself that I can figure a way out easily. All I need to do is to relax a little and give it a thought.
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4. Learn to be grateful for things you have and for things you don’t have
Being a mom taught me that you have to be grateful for everything that life throws at you. Our busy lifestyles have taken the concept of gratitude away from us. We are always so busy in our routine that we do not appreciate the simpler things in life.
However, whenever something terrible happens, moms tend to spend hours thinking about it and feeling bad. I used to do that A LOT.
A mere error in the working of my favorite gadget or cancellation of a plan would make me so annoyed. Now that I am a mother, I cannot stop thanking the Lord for His glory.
The small bundles of joy, which I have in the form of my kids, keep reminding me of how lucky I am. This is undoubtedly one of the things you learn when you become a mom.
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5. Be ready for all unexpected things.
All my efforts to plan a perfect day have taken a backseat, ever since I have become a mother. I have realized that there is no such thing as a perfect plan, and anything can happen at any time.
Being a mother, this would be my best mom advice to all the moms out there. Do not fret over the minor discomfort that may happen anytime. Unexpected occurring is a gift that comes along with motherhood.
But, be ready for the unexpected. Make sure to have an extra pair of outfit for your kid, some additional snacks, and a backup plan for the unpredicted events.
6. Don’t try to please everyone:
If you were not able to attend your school mate’s wedding just because your kid was teething, there is no need to feel guilty about it. There will come a lot of instances where you would need to prioritize your family over everything.
As the family grows, it becomes increasingly difficult to keep up with the Worldly matters. Moms struggling with motherhood may not be able to return a lot of calls or attend a lot of events.
AND ITS PERFECTLY ALRIGHT.
I have learned that I cannot juggle with a lot of things at a single point in time. If I will try to please everyone, I will end up ruining my own peace of mind. I have to go to work and love my family at the same time. But I always prioritize my family.
Thus, it is always better to prioritize your own happiness and pleasure over others.
7. Family is the first priority
If somebody asks me now, How I feel about becoming a mother! I would say, I feel becoming whole, I now know that my family makes me whole. That is why I have started prioritizing my family over everything else. My life now revolves around my kids, and I think about their happiness before I consider other’s happiness.
8. Stop being a busy mommy always on the phone
Okay, so I agree that our gadgets have turned into an extra organ of our very own body. We are not able to leave our phones even for a second.
But, being a mother taught me that we tend to ignore a lot of precious moments, just because we are glued to our phone’s screen. This results in losing precious moments just because we are so stuck with technology.
As a mom, I need to be present in the moment for our kids. I cannot lose out on not giving attention to our kid when he said his first word. This is definitely one of the best things I’ve learned after being a mommy.
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9. Always go for comfort
One of the biggest lessons from moms is that it is always a better idea to prefer comfort over style.
Be it the clothes I buy, the car I ride, or the accessories I keep, I always choose the functionality of the item over style. This unquestionably saves me a lot of hassle and embarrassment.
10. Don’t run behind perfection
IF you are trying to be a perfectionist, you need to know that you will never be fully prepared.
I was once a perfectionist and always wanted to have a perfect life, perfect kids, perfect home, and what not!. However, what my son has taught me is that it is just not really possible.
It doesn’t matter how many books you read, you will never be as good as you always wanted to be.
So, take a deep breath and enjoy motherhood because it’s really okay to be unprepared.
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11. Love for my child is primary:
Why I love being a mom is because as soon as you give birth, everything on Earth becomes secondary for you.
That tiny little angel becomes your life, and you love him over every other thing. You end up starting your day with them and finishing it by tucking them in the bed.
This pure love surely is the best feeling ever.
12. Expect a big change in your marriage
Let’s get this straight.
Now mommies start ignoring their husband, unintentionally, the moment they see their kid. Their whole life becomes about their kids than being about their husbands.
If this is what’s happening with you, you need to bring the flavor of your relationship back. Do not ignore your partner and make him feel important by doing something special for him every once in a while. Don’t forget that you and your husband are like a team.
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13. My kids’ happiness is my happiness:
All mom tips and tricks aside, that one thing that really has become important for me is my kids’ happiness.
Everything in the World has become secondary for me.
The moment I see my kid giggle with happiness, I already feel overjoyed.
These are the 13 things I’ve learned after becoming a mommy
Motherhood makes you strong and capable of almost everything.
With my kids running around the house, I need to keep myself emotionally and physically strong.
They need me and, expect me to react emotionally strong at all times.
Another things I’ve learned after becoming a mommy is that I am a strong woman. Therefore, I need to show my strength to them whenever they need me.